Friendship

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We sometimes over attach to people we call friends and we find our actions being met with indifference and our energy being unmatched in this one-sided relationship. Don't overestimate your place in people’s life. Make friends with people that are ready to make friends with you, familiarize yourself with people that want you to, don’t force things, don’t push too hard, normalize having a strong small circle if possible. However, do not forget that people get attracted to success so they may flock around you when it comes, still, live your life!

You look down on yourself every day thinking you are the smallest in your circle, a lot wish to have what you have but they do not, and until you place that value on yourself, only then can others see it, you are valuable, no matter what, stop playing small. Never force relationships, I know it hurts but you gotta give yourself some respect baby girl.

In essence, life is short and we can die at any time, we should try to make every day count and see it as a gift that needs to be spent wisely, we can’t keep chasing people who do not want to be chased, we should check up on those who need to be checked, we should follow up with those who need to be followed up with and we should live, not just for others but also for ourselves.            

We should also know, that we can’t keep ignoring people or acting like they do not exist just because we have stopped having things in common, treat people the same way you would want to be treated. Be kind, do not make a fool out of your friends just because they tried to reach out to you. Remember, time and chance!                                                      xoxoxo

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